In dealings with others, each of us yearn for a happy and harmonious interpersonal relationships, and do not like the kind of superficial untrue "friend" relationship, because such a relationship is not built on the psychological interaction between the two sides really, emotional basis of the exchange , but others take what we need or to meet interesting relationship between the pseudo-friends.
Social psychologists, after follow-up survey found that in interpersonal dealings, an unhealthy psychological state, and often do not have a harmonious, friendly and trustworthy relationship, to get along with others in that they can not be happy to meet, other people can not give useful help. In order to have a pleasant and harmonious interpersonal relationships, social psychologist summed up the following common adverse psychological state, a female friend in dealings with others to avoid.
1, inferiority. Some female friends because of the face, body, self-cultivation and other factors, in interaction with others in the psychological sense of inferiority, they dare not express their views, do hesitate, the lack of courage, habits echo, do not have their own ideas.
In exchange can not be used for reference to others of the valuable comments and suggestions to get along with people is a waste of time, and will avoid much of.
2, of envy. Some people say that jealousy is a woman's nature, especially with people from the process, which should pay special attention to a female friend! And between people in the following situations arise, the merits of others, but commended the achievements not harbor jealousy, unemployment or even looked at others less fortunate than themselves. Just think, the heart of a jealous mind of the people will never pay interpersonal acts in good faith, to give people a warm, naturally not pleasing.
3, paranoid mental. The greatest taboo friends suspicion, suspicion of others for no reason. Some people suspect that someone else is always talking ill of their own, there is no reason to be so suspicious of the negative things of their own, based on hearsay evidence, at least on the lack of trust. Such people like to tell tales, make my friends feel that she is to avoid any troublemakers.
4, selfishness. Some people always want to get along with the benefits of捞点, or directed at someone else's seat, or would like to get from point where the benefit of others, or to the order of, if not each other for their substantial help and the other exchanges do not want to. Such self-serving psychological, easy to hurt others, once people get a clear understanding of his true intentions, we will firmly interrupted their contacts.
5, the psychological game. In dealings with others, the lack of sincerity and friendship of other people as a child's play, with the attitude of the game of life, regardless of whom are not from the deep-seated psychological exchanges, like the lip. When people need help, they often flee闻风, such a person can not make real friends.
6, mental apathy. Fit of narcissism, people thought it was a phoenix, the sky cents is the best in the human world, and exchanges with others as a charity or gift. Particularly good sense of self is always high, holding a shelf, like a proud indifference, so that other people dare not and do not want to close, will not have friends.
7, psychological prejudices. Of their own liberalism, every indulgence; on the Marxism-Leninism, about everything and they were very harsh. Because of one thing and hatred of others, feel resentment, then that is not worth the other exchanges. Such a person, in the human interaction is often easier to take a dead end, with the matter over with friends less and less. Because there is no one person is never make mistakes, do not know how to forgive, it would not have a long friendship.
The purpose of friends can be said that love is built on the basis of reciprocity, such feelings between people, between the soul and does not seek money, not for profit, but both sides expect to receive spiritual and psychological interaction , emotional support, so that the relationship between the trophoblast permanent friendship continue.
"More happiness than to receive", which is a summary of the United States Oort interpersonal social psychologists concluded.
How can the hands of a sincere friend, the Bible tells us that "To love like the love of others as their own.", "How you like to be you, how you should treat people!" If so, you will be able to have real friends.
Women always like to have many good friends of the men! When men have a lot of good friends, especially the guy that men such good friends in popularity, especially with a young man playing the kind of games, play together, fight together, together with the cause of the adult, the manly team is often very so that a woman like that if the story is a man with his friends for a hero to save the United States a woman is often more moving ... ...
However, when the following is not so often touching on the:
1 on the woman, when your boyfriend is very much the kind of woman would like to discuss the men, other women are often concerned about the link. Maybe he does not bother to bring the kind of man, but to see him the way they care about you really very angry, as if one was not enough to concentrate on the same concern! You always hope that he will only hurt you, tell the truth, maybe you do not know how many times for this gas, but to no avail, he is still distressed over their interest in them. Depressed you dead!
Two pairs of men, when your girlfriend is a lot of men like a woman when, huh, huh, the question then will be coming. Despite your very beautiful woman, but because of too much to attract the attention of the opposite sex so that you are very distressed at the same time, this concern may be associated with your life. So sometimes find such a beautiful woman is trouble.
Therefore, love is sometimes a sense of security, is there any sense of security too! In the ocean of love flying, even if there are still too worried about life piranha!
Summary: people are greedy!
Many men feel like women, men like him a lot of women want to be hurt!
Women like to be a lot of people pain, women like men who only hurt her!
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